Ok, I know I don't have the authority to actually cancel a holiday, but we've decided to cancel trick-or-treating if our kids don't shape up.
Our children are very intelligent and happy people. They play well with other kids and adults love them. They're helpful around the house (for the most part). But should you happen to tell them they can't do something they'd like to do--oh boy. You could very well be in for a whine session the likes of which you've never before witnessed.
I feel like we've tried a ton of different things to get them to stop whining as much. Endless talks, family home evening lessons about manners and the meaning of respect, talking about what Jesus would want them to do, time out, taking toys away, actually throwing toys away. None of it's worked and the whining has only increased.
Take last night for example. We went to the store for a family treat and each kid picked out one thing. That part went fine. When we ventured over to the Halloween section of the store, things went downhill. We needed to get new trick-or-treating buckets for two of the kids. Since S already had a plain old pumpkin one, I wanted to just get two more pumpkin ones, so no one would have a cool one. Unfortunately, the plain old pumpkin ones are right next to the Spiderman ones. When H found out he couldn't get a cool bucket, he lost it. And I mean, LOST IT. Whining, crying, and actually falling down to the floor. We became
those parents--the ones with the bratty kid throwing a tantrum in the grocery store. *Sigh*. A picked him and took him away for a talk, but H continued to talk about the bucket issue (or whine about it, I should say) the rest of our time in the store and all the way home.
Sometimes I just don't get it. It's not like we indulge our kids' every whim. I rarely get them treats at the store-- I mean,
really rarely. And they know if they whine, I'll just get more upset, so the logic of the whining completely escapes me. Sometimes I forget I'm dealing with non-logical beings.
Anyway, right before bed, we told them trick-or-treating was cancelled until further notice. We told them we're making up a list of jobs they need to do every day to be able to participate in the holiday. We'll see what the week brings...