So, I am actually starting to look a little pregnant these days. Unfortunately, I am not one of those women that welcomes the wearing of maternity clothes with delight. I did buy some cute things for this time around. But, I know by the end, I will hate those clothes with every fiber of my being and I put off wearing them for as long as possible.
So, I camouflage. I've had some fun finding random things in my closet I'd completely forgotten about that fit me for a few weeks before I have to find something else. (The perks of having three kids and saving all your "in-between" clothes from being barely pregnant, sort of pregnant, really postpartum, and not so much postpartum but still can't fit into your regular clothes). But I am starting to run out of options. I did find a pair of khaki pants over the weekend that should last me another few weeks, but we'll see.
My real reason for this post is to ask if I'm alone in being sensitive to preggo comments. I don't think I've ever had anyone ever say anything mean-spirited to me over the years about my pregnant body, but even the most well-meaning and innocent of comments can hit me the wrong way (and please, no one take any of this personally. I'm not thinking of any particular comments.)
In my normal life, I don't think I have any body issues, but when I'm pregnant, I totally do. I'm already dreading the warmer months, because I'm quite certain that I'll blow up like a balloon. I had S in October so I was pregnant all during the summer months. I hated it. My ankles were huge, my face was swollen, my feet were huge, and my fingers were swollen (I literally greased my wedding ring off every night until I gave up about a month before she was born.)
Being pregnant with twins, I can only imagine that it will be worse this time around. My sister and her friend both just had twins and have said that people at church made comments to them towards the end. Some were nice and sympathetic. But my sister's friend had people laugh at her when she came into church. That could potentially be a problem...
I wish I could be one of those women who doesn't care what they look like and just revels in knowing that she's able to provide a place for babies to grow. Maybe I can rise above my insecurities this time around and become one of those women. Or maybe I'll hide at home the last month and not let anyone see me. It really could go either way... :)
Monday, March 3, 2008
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I think that feeling is totally normal!! When we are pregnant we have all kinds of hormones going on so what do they expect!! Maybe being told you are on bed rest wouldn't be such a bad thing...ie get to hibernate a bit! hee hee
I felt pretty insecure when I got huuuge at the end of my pregnancy with the twins. Luckily, the worst of it was when I was on bedrest so I got to just sit and feel miserable and bloated at home. :)
Maybe you'll get "lucky" like I did? Hopefully not.
I never felt huge with my first, but he was 2 weeks early and I started out probably the skinniest I'd ever been...but this time around, I feel bigger...and just get nervous because you never know what to expect, how far or big you'll get! I have 6 weeks to go and think I look like when I gave birth to my first, so that makes me really nervous...and I've always been able to get back to normal - but the older I get I do get nervous about it being harder each time! At the same time, I'm grateful for the experience and think you can have both emotions at the same time:) On a slightly different note, I described to someone the other day that I felt like a whale when I try to get out of bed because I couldn't move very well...my husband suggested it's probably more like Elephant seals because they actually come up on the shore and move very funny. I want to find a video of this action on youtube topost on my blog...his family had video of it and we died laughing!
OK, I feel like crap...I am one of those 'anonymous' non-thinkers who said a stupid thing. You know it's only because I'm wildly jealous right?? I think you should hide, flaunt it, pig out or whatever else makes you feel good :)
I was worried you would think that, Mariah. I was NOT talking about what you said at church, I promise, promise, promise. :)
my favorite awful comments are: haven't you had that thing yet (because if I had, I would still be this distortedly huge?) and oh, I had no idea you were pregnant (after 7 months that always makes me wonder what people thought was happening to me) All the other comments I can seemingly take in stride probably because I am most forgiving of my body when I am pregnant, but those two just get under my skin forever. Laughing helps (like when I had to give up on shoes entirely and wear slippers to church because I could find nothing to fit on my elephantine feet) I have problems with the belly touching too, does that bother you?
Amen, Angie. After just experiencing the past-my-due-date stage people are so ridiculous in their comments. I pride myself in buying clothes that aren't maternity, but I can wear pregnant. They have TONS out right now--elastic-band skirts, peasant shirts, etc. I would so much rather spend $$ on something I can wear all the time. BTW, who cares how big you get--I just lost 20 lbs in one week. They can't even do that on the biggest loser.
I think it is somewhat intimidating to be pregnant in the neighborhood we live in. You seem to always bounce back quickly. I know you can handle anything that comes your way. You have never been one to hold back a comment, but I got your back. Maternity clothes have gotten cuter over the years and styles have gotten better that you can get away with regular clothes. Just hang in there my cute pregnant friend.
Sometimes I think pregnancy is just a crue, cruel joke. I hate being pregnant and suffer all kinds of issues. When I'm not pregnant I think every pregnant woman is so cute and I wonder why I can never look that way.
At least you won't be pregnant forever, that's one small consolation.
I had someone tell me that my belly was showing early in my pregnancy because I "had no waist." Hmmm...what is that suppose to mean!?
AMEN! I'm the same way,somehow when Im pregnant EVERYONE on the planet looks so skinny! You look great and you bounced back so fast when you had Ti, just enjoy the moment!
I am also NOT looking forward to the summer. I think I will just go sit and be a beached whale at the pool every day until the end of June! I always thought you looked great pregnant, but I totally understand feeling insecure and HUGE. I just don't know why people make comments like "oh, any day now, huh?" or "you look ready to pop" when I am only 6 months. I want to strangle some of them!!
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I think anyone who has had a baby can identify with how you are feeling. I sure do! I've been huge every time! If it helps at all, I think you are adorable pregnant!
I loved being pregnant in the summer and I know that I did not look good at all, I gained 60 lbs. I never got my wedding ring on from Jett so I just bought a really big fake one. It was fun.
Well, I've been contemplating on what to say, but I can't come up with anything good. Odds are that I will look bigger than you and you will be carrying TWO babies. I get enormous, it covers every square inch of my torso. So all I can say is that it's not going to last forever and the end will come and you'll forget all about it until you look at pictures or you get pregnant again.
P.S. You looked really cute at Albertson's last night.
Yeah, besides the women laughing at me in church, I didn't even mention the MEN who would turn around when I walked into sacrament meeting and mouth "OH MY GOSH." Hello??
Seriously though, you'll have to buy big this time. I swear I skipped the whole second trimester and missed wearing a lot of the stuff that fit me the whole time with Cash. It was hard being so big this time because I felt almost cute the first time I was pregnant, and there was really no hope of that this time.
And if you swell like Brooke did and like it sounds like Angie does, all I can say is I'm sorry!
First of all, your closet never ceases to amaze me! It's like the Narnia wardrobe in there!! Second of all I had to toss the wedding ring when I was 2 months pregnant so you can imagine how I looked by the end! Lastly you're hot and you always will be! A little belly or bloated ankles won't change that!
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